I once heard someone say “curious people find themselves in unusual places.” I wrote it down and have carried it around with me for months now. It is a profoundly interesting statement to me.
Being curious actually takes guts. The idea of being curious seems to often be associated with being timid, or shy. As though a curious person just wants to poke their head in, take a look around and then quietly leave. Sometimes that is true.
I believe it was from the pen of Jane Austen that came the words “I was quiet, but I was not blind.”
I am a curious person, I always have been although it is only recently that I have been able to articulate it as such. At times I can be very quiet, but I am rarely blind to what is going on just below the surface around me. I don’t typically see the value of “going there”, there is not always wisdom in “going there”.
Sometimes you have to.
That takes guts.
That is where curiosity lands you in some unusual places, unusual conversations, and unusual relationships.
I love that I am curious. I love that my head naturally tilts slightly to the right when I get curious about something. There is something about being curious that makes you listen intently, question purposefully, and engage with life intentionally. Those are reasons I love that I come by this naturally. The beautiful thing about being curious is that anyone can be, it can be a choice, a way to choose to live intentionally.
Here at Confronting Normal we love the saying “Stay Curious”. Curiosity is not about challenging what you don’t agree with, it is not about breaking down systems, it is not destructive by nature. It is about intentionality, about thinking for yourself, and at its best it can be about problem solving to find better ways.
Wondering mimics curiosity, but it fails to take that next step of engaging with your thoughts.
Stay curious, engage with the world around you, choose to think for yourself even if that lands you in unusual places. Our culture is tribe driven, curiosity has a way of making the tribe uncomfortable. That’s okay.
In Brene Brown’s book Rising Strong she says “we have to be brave enough to want to know more.” Here at Confronting Normal we could not agree more. Stay curious, ask questions, have conversations – there is so much life in all of those places!